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  • Tiffany Marlink

Why do I cry when I'm around you?

Why do I cry when I'm around you?

The answer: Because you are healing.

I know it’s uncomfortable to cry in front of others, but I want you to consider what the act of crying is doing for your body? It is a physical energy release. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase emotion is energy in motion. That is what your tears are doing for you. They are allowing the energy to move out of your body instead of becoming trapped inside.

Tears are an incredible form of strength and self-care. It is important to allow your body to do what it was naturally created to do. Consider this. What if every time you exercised, you tried to stop your body from sweating? Imagine how uncomfortable and unnatural that would feel. Stopping yourself from crying is like trying to hold back the sweat. It just shouldn’t be done.

Have you ever experienced a really good cry? The deep sob, snotty nose, puffy eyes kind of cry? Think back to how you felt before and after the tears. The experience of crying was likely uncomfortable, but I’m guessing you physically felt a lot better afterwards. That is because the act of crying is releasing lower vibrational energy. Unfortunately, we often have to experience it on its way out our system. However, I want to remind you that it is a temporary discomfort that is worth it in the long run. Releasing that energy from your body makes you feel lighter and it also creates space. Space that can be filled with higher vibrational energy like love and joy.

Perhaps you’re thinking, “I don’t like to cry! It’s uncomfortable and embarrassing.”

I understand. It can be painful to experience our emotions, but it’s far worse to continue carrying it and let it grow into something bigger and more intense. An accumulation of lower vibration energy can even turn into physical symptoms and dis-ease in the body. That is why I encourage you to allow your tears to flow when they present themselves.

Here are a couple suggestions to help you.

Let yourself cry. Allow yourself to experience the tears with the intention of releasing the emotion from your body. Notice how you feel before and after. I encourage you take a few notes in your journal about what you are letting go and what you are physically and emotionally experiencing as a result. If it feels helpful, you could try repeating one of the following mantras.

I release the energy that is no longer in alignment with my highest vibration.

I let go of any energy that is no longer serving me.

I love myself enough to let go of that which I no longer need to carry.

Ask for emotional support. This could be a friend or a professional. Someone who can hold space for you to process the emotions in a safe and secure environment. Consider what you are going to need from these individuals and don’t be afraid to let them know. Do you need someone to listen and not give advice? Do you need a hug or physical comfort? Do you just want someone to hand you the tissues and remind you it’s going to be ok? Whatever it is that you need, let your support team know up front what your expectations are and how they can support you best. They will appreciate the information and you will be able to receive what you need. It’s a win-win.

Work with an energy healer. There are a number of different modalities and practitioners in this world. Examples include: reiki, shamanic healing, acupuncture, sound healing, crystal healing, essential oils, and reflexology (just to name a few). Similar to finding a doctor, I encourage you to ask for recommendations and try a few options to find the right fit for you. Each practitioner has their own approach and natural gifts, so don’t be afraid to shop around or create your own little healing team.

Meditate. Meditation is a super powerful tool to help you relax, reduce stress and reconnect with your deepest self. There are tons of free meditations available on the Insight Meditation App or YouTube. Find what works for you and begin to practice every day. If you don’t already have a regular meditation practice, I encourage you to start small. Learning to meditate is like running a marathon. Yes, you could sit for 4 hours but it’s gonna be really uncomfortable. Start training with shorter periods of time and work your way up gradually. Create a practice that you can continue, not one that you dread.

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